Self Care Circles

If you feel you would like to be part of a safe circle with a small group of like-minded women, then contact me for more info.

Please remember that it is not a routine but a deliberate act of genuine engagement. It is a space that fosters connection and an understanding of each other's emotional landscapes.

Within this time, women come together to share, listen, and empathise. a simple yet profound ritual that deepens connection.

Each member brings their vulnerabilities, joys, and concerns to the circle, creating an atmosphere of unity and unwavering support.

Each participant must approach the circle with an open heart and a sincere commitment to the shared journey ahead.

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“For the fisrt time I feel like someone is listening to me. It is amazing how liberating this makes me feel. Coming into a circle weekly has opened me up to new understandings of myself. It is something I look forward to, and I would not give it up for anything"

"Nicola holds the circle so compassionately, having her facilitate makes me feel completely safe, I am so grateful for this weekly time together. I have noticed how my body is less tense and more relaxed. Hearing others talk makes me feel that I am not alone"

“Each time I step into the cirlce I feel a huge release, I have so much inside my body and this is such a powerful way to let it go, the group gives me space to hear my own needs and is held in such safety ”

Being in a listening circle can be a life changing experience

If you would like to join a small circle of 6 women, please contact me at nicola@nicolalocke.com

What happens in the circle

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Each person has a chance to speak. It works better not to set a timer but to facilitate it gently, not letting someone dominate the time. We take turns to go around in a circle. When you have your time, you describe how you feel in the best way you can. It is better to talk about yourself and not make it about others. Think about how your day/week has been. You may bring up something unexpected. You do not have to speak if you are not ready. A question may be set to help ease the group into conversation. Nothing is expected from you in a circle.

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When you talk, it is your turn to be heard and seen. No one is here to fix anyone, you are here to listen or be heard. When someone is talking, it is better if everyone listens, so try not to think about what you are going to say when it is your turn. It gets easier the more you participate. We go slow and are patient with everyone. The emphasis is on being kind to yourself. It takes adjustment to be in a circle, so we take as long as it needs.

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If someone gets upset, space is given for them in that moment. If we stop someone in mid-flow or try to offer solutions or advice, they may feel self-conscious. It is our instinct to jump in and offer empathy, but it is better to do this after everyone has had their chance to talk. If someone in the group has got upset, it will be acknowledged and they will be offered support from the group. Sometimes being heard is enough.

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It is important not to interrupt someone while they are speaking. Sometimes it is a response to finish someone's sentence, offer advice or tell a similar story to help someone feel better; however, often, someone just wants to be heard and seen. You will notice how healing this is. Listening is a skill that we may need to learn, It isn't always easy to listen; that's okay. It is very good practice and can help to create deep and special bonds.